Be the person you want to raise your child to be, don’t dictate it. Enforcing rules is certainly important. Telling your kid no is gonna happen. But don’t become a voice of discouragement. Offer explanations and alternatives instead of ‘no’. Lead by example not orders.
Your kids (or really anyone you love) don’t need to “make you proud”
Don’t ever use that as motivation
Don’t be a parental tyrant
Don’t CONTROL your kids -> they will hate you
Don’t dictate to them
Instill values, show them how to be good people, trust them to make the right decisions, and teach them when they inevitably don’t make the right decision